What’s up kings, it’s time for another installment of KYWK 101. The topic that will be discuss is the wall is undefeated. So I’m pretty sure some of you are asking yourself, what is this wall he speaks of? When a woman gets into her mid 30’s to early 40’s, they run into the infamous wall. As a woman gets old in age, their value starts to go down in the eyes of men.
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Hello King. I have a few questions regarding this post. Firstly, why are 21-28 a woman’s “peak” years of beauty? Are there any examples that back the decline of a woman’s beauty after this arbitrary period? Is the beauty you refer to in this post purely physical? Secondly, in your opinion, are there any other factors that play a part in why a woman of a certain age may pressure a man to commit?
Because those are the years that women start to really start to evolve physically. I don’t have an study cases but a current example of someone hitting the wall is Ayesha Curry. Just listen to her on the Red Table Talk with Jada Pickett Smith. She realized that she was getting zero male attention except from her husband. It’s not what she is use to experiencing, so she is having a hard time dealing with this. And yes, I am referring to women’s beauty in this post. For women, time plays a big part in the push for commitment from a man. Most women want to have kids, but that becomes harder the older she gets. For women, dating is like having a lottery ticket. If the man is a winner, she is going to try to cash in as quickly as she can. If he’s not, she is going to move on to find the potential winner.
I think the example of Ayesha Curry is a false equivalency because it is my opinion that she is no longer receiving male attention because of the respect that her husband’s peers and males that have the ability to attract her attention have for her situation. It is human nature to want to be desired by the opposite sex, no matter what age or martial status. However, I do agree with you in that the attention from her husband should be enough, and red table talk may not have been the best platform for that type of transparency. Take for example, beautiful women like Gabrielle Union and Angela Basset who are well into their 40s+and 1:are still very beautiful and youthful in appearance and 2: were older when they decided to have children. My point is, not all black women are monolithic. It is not the sole desire of every woman to bear children by a certain age. In this day and age , medical advancements and new approaches to gender roles make it possible for women to pursue careers and personal goals prior to having children. It is not fair to group all women in their late 20s+ into a category that is baby-crazed and awfully aging. The saying “Black don’t crack” exists for a reason.
We will have to agree to disagree on the Ayesha Curry thing. I agree that Gabrielle Union and Angela Basset look good for their age. But they looked even better when they were younger. I never said that all women wanted kids, I said most women do. Also this is not entirely a black woman thing, because other races of women go through it as well. Who said that women in their late 20s are baby crazed and awfully aging? There are a lot of beautiful women in the 30s, but the point still remains that she is not in her prime of beauty anymore.